Act as if you’re okay with the breakup and focus completely on yourself. Don’t like her pictures on social media and don’t bother her friends. So leave your ex alone after the breakup. It makes your ex see that you’re obsessed with her and that you don’t have what it takes to make yourself happy, let alone her. In other words, you can’t control her perceptions of you prior to the breakup, but you can nonetheless make sure that you don’t make things worse by begging and pleading and doing things that make you look desperate for attention.ĭesperation doesn’t encourage love to redevelop. Not how she felt for you prior to the breakup, but how she feels for you after. You must remember that your ability to control yourself and your willingness to give your ex space will determine how your ex thinks and feels about you after the breakup. You can do all these things simply by following the no contact rule and avoiding post-breakup mistakes. Things that involve preserving your worth, increasing your self-esteem and happiness, boosting your independence, and finding your purpose again. Now, you have different things to worry about. I know this is a hard pill to swallow because you still have feelings for your ex and wish that she would come to her senses and come back to you.īut since the breakup happened, you mustn’t stay focused on the past and beat yourself up for your mistakes.
Probably a week or two before the breakup because that’s when she realized she doesn’t want to be with you.
You lost it way before she decided to dump you. I wish there was some way you could help her process the separation and speed up the process, but, unfortunately, you lost the ability to influence her a while ago. That makes your ex the person who has to correct her thinking patterns, improve her perceptions of you, and process the unhealthy feelings she’d created for you.Īnd the only way your ex can fix these internal issues is if you leave her alone. The only person responsible for redeveloping feelings is the person who left. So don’t think that you’re responsible for convincing her to give you another chance. She’ll lose her remaining respect and pity you instead of love you. If anything, she’ll get angry with you and feel even less attracted to you. She’s completely unreceptive to your efforts, which is why she won’t think fondly of you if you refuse to leave her alone. She may have wanted you to chase (or rather care about her) before the breakup, but now that she ended the relationship, she doesn’t want you to do that anymore. Before you act on impulse, though, you need to know that your ex doesn’t want you to chase her. You’re convinced that you must say or do something to show her you’re serious about her and capable of changing for her and the relationship. If a woman you like dumped you, you probably feel tempted to chase after her.
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